Originally posted Dec. 10, 2010 for KVOE.com “What’s On My Plate.”


In the grand scheme of things, five years isn’t a lot of time. But it’s plenty long enough to determine whether you want to keep going in the same direction.

Ginny and I celebrate our five-year anniversary today. There won’t be a lot of actual celebrating, not with our work loads in play. But it’s fun to look back and see how our lives have developed.

Baseball games and dance lessons. Frog races and pie buffets. Band concerts and parent-teacher conferences. Clueless to…well…still clueless. Some things never will change.

In some ways our personalities are similar, but in key areas we’re different. The big key is she’s the planner, I’m the conceptualizer (is that a word? Microsoft Word says no). This lets us get through each day without major blowups, although there are the daily aggravations (usually because I’ve started on something, got pulled to something else and totally forgot what I was doing first).

Philosophically, I guess you could liken our relationship to a music group. You’ve got to have a lead vocal and you’ve got to have harmony. You’ve got to have a lead instrument and the rhythm section. I’ve always considered myself as harmony and rhythm, so things generally speaking mesh well at home. Or, at least, that’s what I’ve gathered.

It sounds trite to say it, but Ginny’s my rock. If things are going well, she’s the first person I tell. If things are going poorly, I try to avoid telling her because I don’t want to burden her – she’s already got enough going on as it is. If I disappoint her, which happens all too often, well, that just kills me.

OK, cue up some 1980s Chicago…Get it over with…

And to think our lives together started with an interview for the CTE Summer Theater program.

I have no idea what’s coming the next five years, but I know who I want to spend it with.

Happy anniversary, sweetheart. You’ll always be my wonderful.